Relationship Issues Communication

A relationship cannot exist if the parties involved do not sacrifice some individual autonomy. On the other hand, too much connection, or co-dependency, can destroy the relationship because the individual identities become lost in jealousy, low-self esteem, disappointment and resentment.

Recent studies show that only 50% of relationships survive past the first 6 months, and less than that ever get to celebrate their one-year anniversary. That is why it is important to realize that there are certain conditions that help relationships deepen and grow; the first one being communication.

Communication is not just talking about things; it also involves good listening skills. A person should not only try to interpret what the partner says as an isolated event, but instead, interpret what is being said in the context of the partners likes and dislikes, fears and strengths, hopes and desires. Moreover, if a partner wants to communicate efficiently, he/she needs to do it honestly. Manipulating mind games are excusable during the puberty years, but when dealing with the most important person in his or her life, it is a given that the partner should exercise honesty at all times.

Another key element in a successful relationship is the give and take of sexual satisfaction. A good relationship is re-enforced by a good sexual rapport. Partners should be honest about their likes and dislikes in bed and be willing to accommodate each other in that department. Ignoring a partners sexual desires and just expecting to be satisfied instead is a sure relationship damper. If physical issues come up, such as erectile dysfunction, both partners should feel totally free and comfortable talking about it and looking for feasible solutions, such as physical therapy or getting Viagra online, but the decision must be made by both.

And last but not least, it is important to agree to disagree. Respecting a difference in opinions is always healthy in any relationship, since it makes it stronger and incredibly interesting. If the points of view are totally opposite on vital issues, such as having children, or career choices, then the couple must be willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship. The one who has less to loose by adopting or discarding an issue, should be the one to concede the most when compromising.

Remember, love is not a superhighway, but an elusive 2-way street that is hard to come by.